Being a Gentelman

ETIQUETTE GUIDELINE FOR BEING A GENTLEMAN

A true gentleman is always kind and considerate of others, especially to the ladies. His elegant manners will show his regard for those around him. A gentleman will be polite, say nice things to people, and conduct himself in a way that will make everyone admire him. Here is a guideline to be a perfect gentleman:

  •  A gentleman should always open a door for a lady and let her walk in first.
  • It is courteous to walk along the curb while a lady is on the other side of a gentleman on a sidewalk. It protects her from traffic and splashing puddles for example.
  • Always let the ladies leave the elevator first, unless you are in the front and it is easier in a crowded elevator for you to step out for others to step out after you.
  • A gentleman shows courtesy and respect by pulling a chair out for a lady, gently push the chair in for her, and then take his seat.
  • A kind gentleman will show respect by giving up his seat for a lady or the elderly. This can be on the bus, train or an office.
  • It is polite to ask a lady is she would like help with her coat. If she says yes, this is how you assist her. Stand about one foot behind her back shoulders and lift the collar part of the coat up to let her slip out of the coat. Hold the coat over your arm until it can be hung up or give it back to her. To help her put the coat back on, hold the coat behind her shoulders again with the arms out, let her slip into the coat and step back while she fixes her coat and give her personal space.
  • An elegant gentleman can compliment the ladies, but not get too personal. Some safe compliments can be, “You look very nice today,” or “That is a lovely outfit or hairdo.”
  •  Always remember to say please and thank-you.
  • Gentlemen should remember to keep the volume of their voice low and pleasant.
  • A fine gentleman will remember to have nice table manners.
  • A thoughtful gentleman will never insult other people. Be kind, helpful and courteous at all times.
  •  A kind gentleman should never curse in front of the ladies.
  • Never appear drunk in front of a lady.
  • Never hit a lady. If a man is upset with a lady, a real gentleman will talk over an issue without hitting or yelling.
  • Remember to give all people, especially ladies, their personal space.
  • A considerate gentleman will have nice conversations with ladies. Some topics make some ladies uncomfortable. Some topics to avoid are issues about violence or crude sexual topics. Always have polite conversation.

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FINE MANNERS AT ELEGANT DANCES

Dances are fun and beautiful events to meet new friends, including the opposite sex, in a safe setting. It is important to have the finest manners at a dance, relax and enjoy yourself. You don’t have to be the best dancer, but you do have to have excellent manners. Here is a guideline of fine manners and behavior at a dance in the community: – It is a time to dress your best to meet new people and make an impression. – It may be a tradition for gentlemen to ask ladies to dance, but today even the ladies can ask a man to dance! – If there is someone you want to ask to dance, just approach them, look in their eyes, smile, hold out your hand and ask. If they turn you down, ask another person and keep trying. Don’t worry if they are in a group of people, just approach the person and ask. – Try to accept a dance with who asks you, unless you are taking a break. You want to meet and talk to new people. If you are resting, tell the person you are taking a break. – If it is a new person you are dancing with, tell them your name and ask them their name. – If you want to continue dancing with that person, let them know. If you are done dancing with that person, thank them and move on to another person or take a break. Always be kind! – If you bump into another person or couple, don’t forget to say, “Excuse me or excuse us.” Always be polite. – Never criticize or make fun of anyone’s dancing. Everyone deserves to have a good time. Dancing is a good social mixer to meet new people. It should be a fun and safe event for everyone. – You may compliment the dancing of your partner to make them feel comfortable and at ease. Smile and have a good time! Download Printable Word Document: FINE MANNERS AT ELEGANT DANCES

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ETIQUETTE GUIDELINE FOR BEING A LADY

A lady is always admired for her good manners and elegant ways. A true lady will be caring and respectful to everyone. Beautiful manners and grooming makes every woman attractive. It is also important to treat men kindly and courteously so they will treat you the same. Here are some guidelines on how to be a true lady:

–  Dress like a lady! It is nice to dress up for the right occasion, do your nails and hair. Gentlemen like a well-groomed lady!
– Remember to say please and thank-you. Be considerate and thoughtful of others.
– A lady should avoid mean gossip and try to say nice things to other people. Never discuss any private matters in public.
– Talk to others around you and make them feel comfortable.
– NEVER curse in front of people. Also, a lady should not get in public arguments with others. Some topics to avoid are politics, money, or bathroom jokes.
– If a lady is chewing gum in public, please throw it away before your meal or meeting with other people.
– A lady should never be under the influence. It is very unladylike!
– If a lady is talking to a group of people, it is considerate to put away the cell phone and give full attention to peers.
– If a lady does get a message on her cell, it is polite to get back to that person within 24 hours so nobody gets their feelings hurt.
– If you have an appointment and need to cancel, do so as soon as possible to be responsible. Always give a sincere apology and ask if you can reschedule for a new appointment.
– It is important to be sweet to all gentlemen. Sometimes a gentleman will show interest in a lady. It is considerate to gently let a gentleman know that she is not interested without being mean. A lady can kindly say to a gentleman that she likes him as a person, maybe even as a friend. It is important to be firm if you are not interested, which will give him the chance to look for another lady that is right for him.

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PROPER ETIQUETTE AT MUSEUMS

Museums are a great cultural activity to expand knowledge of the arts, history, and interact with friends with similar interests. There are a variety of museums in Los Angeles such as the Getty Brentwood, Getty Malibu, the Los Angeles Museum of Art events, and cultural museums such as Skirball, and the Japanese Museum for example.
Museums are a place for viewing beautiful and rare works of art, memorabilia, objects, photographs and cultural heritage. Group tours can be fun too and docents can talk about the art work to make the tour more interesting. Some museum etiquette is as follows:

– Do not touch any art objects unless allowed to. Sometimes there are interactive museum activities, but there will be signs that tell you.
– Walk quietly and respectfully in the museum.
– Stay with your group at all times.
– Talk quietly in your group and listen to the tour leader or docent.
– Raise your hand if you have questions for the docent.
– Most museums don’t allow food or drinks while viewing the art work. Find out where the food areas are located.
Find out what the rules for using cameras are. Some museums allow it, some do not.

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Socializing in the community for adults with special needs

HOW SOCIALIZING IN THE COMMUNITY BENEFITS ADULTS WITH SPECIAL NEEDS

By J. Marie

All adults with special needs have a civil right to be included in the larger community and enjoy all types of typical activities.  Recreation and Leisure are important components of the quality of life and enhances continual intellectual and social development.

Friendships are created in groups with their peers when they actively participate in a variety of activities.  Some activities can be visiting museums, attending sports events, joining athletic teams, viewing theater musicals, ballets, and plays, movies, enjoying dances, and being part of a restaurant club.

Visiting museums stimulates cognitive development by expanding knowledge of the arts, along with history and promotes an opportunity to practice reading new material. Attending sports events creates a sense of belonging, conversation, and cheering for their favorite teams.  Some individuals have the ability to join typical sports teams.  The Special Olympics are available to most individuals with disabilities who meet their requirements.  Athletes continue improving their muscular strength, endurance, and the chance to socialize with other athletes.

Theater musicals, ballets, plays, movies are part of the arts and provide continual intellectual enrichment to help prevent cognitive regression.  Exposure to the visual and musical arts generates more conversation between peers and provides an opportunity to extend vocabulary as well. Cultural events provide intellectual enrichment and understanding other heritages.

Attending dances are a safe, delightful way to meet the opposite sex in the special needs community.  Dances provide an opportunity to dress up and have a chance to meet many different people to interact with in an elegant setting.  It is a nice to make new friends with shared interests and practice social skills. Dancing is also good exercise, healthy, and the social interaction of dances builds positive self-esteem.

Dining at restaurants with peers is a pleasurable, social activity with many benefits for adults with special needs. It offers a chance to practice good manners and conversation.  Dining at a variety of restaurants can expand cultural knowledge and affords the occasion to sample a wide range of cuisines.

Social activities with peers help adults with special needs interact in the community and help them benefit with their overall emotional, physical and intellectual development. Friendships can blossom into partnerships.  Adults will develop more ease in public places and reinforce their social graces in a typical environment.  Leisure and recreation are positive endeavors for the special needs population.

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Fine Restaurant Manners

Fine Restaurant Manners

By J. Marie

The Valley Socials Restaurant Club is a wonderful way to meet with friends and make new ones. Dining together is a pleasant social activity, so it is important to refine proper table manners. Good manners show you are considerate and respectful of others.

Here are some of the finer tips to upgrade your restaurant etiquette:

  • Be a few minutes early when you have a reservation. A good tip would be 10-15 minutes early at a restaurant.
  • If there is a host or hostess, when they begin eating, so can you. Be sure to wait for others to be seated and ready to eat before you begin eating.
  • Silverware is placed in order of how to use it, so you can follow the rule of “begin on the outside and work your way in towards the plate.”
  • Elbows should be kept off the table while you eat.
  • Food will be passed to the right. Don’t take too much so others can have some too. You can always have seconds.
  • If there is a dish that you want passed to you, don’t forget to say, “Please pass the pasta,” for example. Never reach over people to grab a serving dish.
  • If you need to get up from the table, say, “Excuse me, I need to step out,” for example and leave quietly. Place your fork at where 8:00 would be and your knife where 4:00 would be to show the waiter you will be back. You might leave your napkin on your chair so the waiter also knows you will be back.
  • If you are done eating, place your knife and fork on the right side of your plate. The knife will have the blade side in and the fork in an upwards position. This is the easiest position to remember. Place your used napkin partly folded on the left of your plate.
  • Remember to break your bread or rolls into one bite size piece at a time and spread butter on each bite as you eat it. Use a butter knife if it is available.
  • There is a nice way to eat soup properly. Put the spoon at the edge of your bowl closest to you and move the spoon away from you to the other side of the bowl as you scoop up soup. Sip the soup politely and quietly.
  • Salads can be tricky if the lettuce pieces are too bit! You may cut the lettuce pieces into smaller bites. Peas can be difficult too.  Don’t use your fingers but use the blade side of your knife to scoop it onto your fork. You can use the side of other food such as meat so scoop up peas.

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BUILDING ADULT FRIENDSHIPS THROUGH VALLEY SOCIALS

BUILDING ADULT FRIENDSHIPS THROUGH VALLEY SOCIALS

Valley Socials promote adult friendships for individuals with special needs with similar interests and goals. Participants can select the activities of their choice to enjoy with peers who have the same interest.  Adults can choose as many activities as they desire to try new experiences. Social activities enhance friendships since Valley Socials will have a variety of events each month to promote a wonderful social life for participants.

TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL FRIENDSHIPS

  • Friends have a good time participating in activities together.
  • Friends are kind, understanding, and considerate to one another.
  • Be supportive and helpful to your friend.
  • Be polite and respectful to the opposite sex.
  • Friends trust each other and share, discuss personal feelings and information and know to keep it private.
  • Friends understand the differences in other people and are understanding.
  • Say nice things to each other! Never put down a friend or make them feel bad. Be there for your friend and be supportive.

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How to be a Good Spectator at Sports Events

How to be a Good Spectator at Sports Events

By J. Marie

Sports Events can be very fun and exciting to attend with your peers.  There are a variety of sports venues in Los Angeles which include Professional sports, College Sports, and even high school events.  There are a wise set of rules for good Spector Sportsmanship to follow:

  • You can cheer for your favorite team, but respect the opposing team too.
  • Always stand for the National Anthem, face the flag, and take off your hat.
  • Do NOT boo the other team or put them down. Don’t show off if YOUR team scores, but cheer and clap politely.
  • Accept the referees’ decision on plays. Do not become angry or emotional.
  • Do NOT pick fights with the fans of the opposing team. Do NOT insult the other fans or bother them in any way. Always be polite and respectful.
  • Keep your conversations quiet among yourselves in order to not disturb the other fans. Do not be too loud or whistle too loud. Show your good manners!
  • If you have to leave the stands, be extra polite as you pass by the other fans as they sit. Always remember to say, “Excuse me, please.”
  • Sit down when the other fans take their seats. Never remain standing alone to cheer.
  • Never throw things into the field or at other fans.
  • When the game is done, you can tell fans of the other team, “Congratulations, or good game.”